Within this website is a piece written by myself about 'Crushes' it is not written to offend anyone and is merly here to enlighten us or perhaps take you back to when you had your first crush.

Crushes

A crush defined by KidsHealth (2007) is a word used to describe special feelings you have for another person, a classmate, or friend that you really like. It is also said to be a bit like the romantic love adults feel toward one another (Lyness, 2007). It seems as if having a crush on a specific person has been going on in ones life since the time of our ability to walk.

When you experience your first crush within adolescences it’s an important moment because in a way; a crush helps you think about the kind of person that you want to love when you grow up (Lyness, 2007). Also having a crush helps us realize the qualities we like or dislike in a person. Crushes never really seem to be chosen; as they always seem to be coming out of no where and are unexpected. And when thinking of a crush you tend to want someone to have the same reciprocal feelings of having a crush on you. When having a crush the most obvious kind of attraction to them is physical. We are attracted to those who are pleasing to look at (DeGenova, 112). The most common forms of crushes seem to be on a professional athletes or famous celebrities; however, in time we’ll never really meet them in person, but it’s still o.k. to dream and look. But what about the people we see everyday, that guy or girl that has just caught your eye in class. What about them?

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON SOMEONE?

Answer:

-you get buttflies in your stomach

-you think about them often

-you sometimes tend to be clumsy around them

-you are nervous around them

-you get sweaty palms or have a pounding heart

Don't worry you're not alone and these feelings are normal and happen to everyone even parents. It would also be a good idea to talk to them about it. Some good ways to bring up such a subject to your mother or father would be asking them of their first crush and then from there bring up the boy or girl you have a crush on. Another good person to talk to would be a person you trust greatly, like a best friend. Also a diary or journal is a good way to let out your feelings of a person, but just remember to keep it in a safe place; from little brothers or sisters.

POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE SIDES:

The positive side is that happy feeling you got.

The negative side is; what if the feelings aren’t reciprocal or what if he doesn’t even know I exist? Chances are he or she has probably seen you around school, but doesn’t know your name. However, with celebrities they probably don’t know who you are. But for the guy or girl that goes to your school a couple of ways to possible talk to them is if he or she’s on a sports team and they have a game, compliment him or her on playing, try and be interested in what they like. Sometimes even a simple “hello” will do the trick. Another thing about crushes is if the infatuation is not the same. That’s called a broken heart, but don’t worry you can recover from it. And maybe for some reason they don’t see your great charm and great looks to be appealing to them it is alright too; you can always just have them as a friend because I’m sure that would be great too because chances are you’ll have many more crushes.

FUN ZONE!!!

QUIZ TIME: Crush Quiz (resource: ChannelOne.com)

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Informational Sites:

http://www.kidshealth.org/